Did you know that carrying those extra pounds could be ruining your big 'O' moment in bed? Maybe it's not you; maybe it's not him; maybe it's just the excess weight that's getting in the way of your love life and putting a dampener in your bedroom game.
Simply put, certain physical conditions associated with obesity affect the sex drive, leading to lack of sexual stamina, sexual dysfunction and hormonal imbalance. “Research has shown that men suffering from obesity or diabetes tend to have lower levels of testosterone resulting in increased risks of erectile issues and low sex drive,” says Brad Davidson, author of The Stark Naked 21-Day Metabolic Reset, fitness expert and nutritionist.
There’s good news though: Weight loss, even if it’s only a small change, can enhance your libido instantly. Davidson says that making simple lifestyle changes like sleeping 7-9 hours a night and only eating complex carbohydrates with dinner can improve blood sugar stability, leading to weight loss and by association, making you a happy and eager camper between the sheets.
When Are Excess Weight & Sexual Pleasure At Loggerheads?
A body mass index (BMI) that's too high or too low can cause testosterone, the hormone that stimulates sexual desire, to fall. Also, the high cholesterol associated with increased weight gain can cause plaque buildup in the blood vessels, leading to your pelvis region limiting blood flow to the clitoris and genitals; end result? Low sex drive.
Working Out The Problem
“Weight loss and fitness have a very positive effect on every aspect of a person’s life. When you lose weight you have more energy, you’re stronger and you become more flexible both physically and mentally,” says Bedros Keuilian, fitness expert and founder and CEO of Fit Body Boot Camp. Here are some things-to-remember:
Exercise for strength and endurance to keep going for much longer—basically, hit the weights room. Toned muscles can help increase your chances of climax, so why fake it when you can make it? Kegels all the way!
Also, execute moves that increase blood flow to the large muscle groups in the thighs, buttocks, and pelvis. This will help the genitals with better circulation; try and include squats, planks, lunges, deadlifts, the butterfly pose, ab crunches and the like. Interestingly, all of these moves mimic positions you need to hold while having sex so your workout routine almost works like a prep session.
A study found that reducing fat intake and increasing carbohydrate intake can lead to significantly lower androgen levels and a much lower sex drive even with weight loss. “Healthy fat intake is critical for hormone production. Consume healthy fats like free range egg yolks, avocado, coconut oil, and olive oil to improve hormone production and increase libido,” suggests Davidson.
Try couple's yoga. It's a great way to connect with your partner, shed the pounds, find your zen and feel good about yourself.
Weighty Issues Create A Mental Block Among Women
Even worse than the physical side-effects of being overweight are the psychological ones—how you feel about your body can dictate your entire bedroom game. If you're feeling fat, you're going to be too self-conscious to put yourself into the act 100%. For a woman especially, the sex drive is closely linked to their self-confidence.
It is a well known fact that those who exercise feel better and more confident about their bodies and thus have more energy for sex. “Your sex life will be dramatically improved by losing weight, improving your sexual confidence because you are more comfortable with how you look in the buff,” says Davidson.
Even just trying to lose weight can help you appreciate your body and alter your behaviour between the sheets. Working out and aiming to stay in shape is a great practice, not just for the overweight partners but for the fit lovers, too. Do it for good health, do it for peace of mind, do it for pleasure, do it for whatever it is that motivates you because investing in your body is the best decision you will ever make.