The First Step To Creating A Life You Love

by Emma Bathie
It’s interesting how often we’re asked the question “What do you want?” or “What would you like?” Sometimes we’re able to meet this with a great big emphatically clear “This, this, and this!” and sometimes not. Perhaps like me, when you were younger, you were bursting with dreams and you could taste the delicious adventure that was going to make them all come true. 
Then, life started getting in the way. You grew up, beliefs got turned upside-down, and all of a sudden that carefree, fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants version of you who knew exactly what she wanted, began mumbling a feeble, uninspired “well, I know what I don’t want…” to that question. And yes, knowing what you don’t want is one way of reaching what you do want… but I invite you to dive into the Infinite Barrel of Possibility for a moment.

Define Your Desires

What I am about to share with you here is based on the ground-breaking work of Danielle LaPorte and her Desire Map. The first step to creating a life you love is to first get clear on how you want to feel within yourself before you design any more to-do’s, goals, or bucket lists.
Let this sink in. Knowing how you want to feel is the most potent form of clarity you can have. When you find the essence of how you want to feel first, and then infuse those feelings into what you want to have, be and do, you become a powerful creator of your own life.
This means not living by default, not living in reaction to what life
throws you, and not living life through other people’s whims. Any victim mentality is washed away.

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Focus On Your Feelings

Ready to start listening to your soul? Begin by rolling around a list of positive feelings in your mind. Think of phrases and words like:
Lit up, turned on, blissed out, aligned, joy, infinite, inspired, golden, ease, magical…
Go get your hands on Danielle’s Desire Map for a full list of possibilities. Print it out, take a marker and highlight those that jump out at you, ignite you and scream yes! to you. Then play with them. Toss and turn with them for a couple of days. See which ones really resonate. The idea is to narrow down your list to 3-5 core desired feelings.
The idea is genius in its simplicity. First, get clear on how you want to feel. Then do, have, and experience the stuff that originates in those feelings you desire. By keeping your core desired feelings top of mind you get to re-align yourself daily with your heart’s desire. What better way to create a life you love?
Remember, feelings are magnetic. So by choosing to focus on the feelings you want to feel, you’re going to create the experiences you want… and in turn, a life you love!

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“Whenever you start guiding yourself by caring about how you feel, you start guiding yourself back into your Stream of Source Energy, and that’s where your clarity is; that’s where your joy is; that’s where your flexibility is; that’s where your balance is; that’s where your good ideas come from. That’s where all the good stuff is accessed from.”  ~ Abraham-Hicks

Practice What Makes You Feel Good

Life is full of opportunities to feel exactly the way you want to feel. For me, I feel lit up and turned on when I write (and when my gorgeous man pulls up at my door) so I do it daily. I feel vital and energized drinking green juice, so I do it daily. I feel grounded, aligned and infinite when I practice Kundalini yoga, and not quite fully in my skin when I don’t.
I love Danielle’s twist on this quote by Joseph Campbell, “The privilege of a lifetime is being that which you are.” Instead, she says: “The privilege of a lifetime is creating a life that feels the way you want it to feel.” ~ Danielle LaPorte
Emma Bathie is a Soul Happiness Coach. Learn more about her work and how to create more of life's magic here.
Check out more ways to live your best life from Emma Bathie on Z Living: WATCH on Z Living: Namaste Yoga, a calming workout for body and soul. Join hosts Kate Potter, Erica Blitz and a cast of experienced yogis as they guide you through a morning yoga flow sure to start your day off right. Get a sneak peek here.
Tell us in the comments: What is your #1 core desired feeling and how will you go do, have and experience it?

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