If you want to have the best sex possible, something’s got to give– at least that’s what science says. New research published in the British Journal of Psychology finds that altruism is a key factor in successfully finding sexual partners.
Canadian researchers conducted two research trials in order to come upon this conclusion. In the first study, researchers surveyed participants aged 18 to 33 about their altruistic behaviors, sexual histories, and whether they thought they were desirable to the opposite sex.
Results showed men and women who scored higher in terms of altruistic behavior also said they were quite desirable to the opposite sex. For altruistic participants in long-term relationships, both the men and women said they had more sex over the last 30 days than non-altruistic participants.
the principle or practice of unselfish concern for or devotion to the welfare of others (opposed to egoism).
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The researchers then designed a second trial, controlling for traits like narcissism, and tendencies for individuals to over or under-report sexual activity. At the end of this survey, participants who ranged in age from 18 to 47 were entered into a drawing to win $100. But just one catch: they were given a choice to donate or keep the cash. Even after controlling for variables, the study found that selfless participants still had more sex.
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These findings speak volumes towards what it takes today to have healthy sexual and romantic relationships. Worth noting, while altruism was desirable to both genders, male altruists benefitted more from this character trait, while female altruists tend to benefit slightly less.
One likely reason for this finding is that, “On average, women typically need to worry more than men do about lack of commitment, or him being a bad parent, or being violent,” co-author of the study and associate professor of psychology at the University of Guelph in Ontario, Canada, Dr. Pat Barclay, explains in this Today piece. This translates into women feeling a need to be more diligent about looking for cues that a partner is “decent,” he explains. “Someone who is altruistic now is less likely to act like a jerk later.”
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Watch couples try and reconcile with themselves and each other on our new series Altar’d. Those who are willing to go the distance, truly exemplify the altruism that these successful study subjects seem to possess.
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