In an age where instant gratification rules, the idea of saving sex for marriage isn't exactly the norm (in fact, this site estimates that a mere 3% of Americans tie the knot before doing the deed!). But just recently, model Miranda Kerr let it slip that abstinence is the approach for her and her husband-to-be, Snapchat co-founder Evan Spiegel. Yes, that's right: In an interview with the UK Times, Kerr appeared to be saying that she and Spiegel were waiting to have sex. The model stated that the duo weren't planning on having a child "until after we get married. My partner is very traditional." When pressed, she said, “I mean, we’re just… waiting.”
It's surprising, but Kerr and Spiegel's decision begs a big wellness question: Does delaying gratification make the end result better?
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Instant Gratification Vs. Delayed Gratification
Z Living's new series Altar'd takes a look at delayed gratification in every single episode. In the show, a bride and groom-to-be are separated for 90 days before their wedding to shape up and slim down. The caveat is, they must agree to have no contact with each other throughout the 90-day period (no talking, no texting, and no sex!) The couples then dramatically reveal themselves and their transformations when they meet up at the altar. Tune in to Altar'd every Tuesday at 8PM. Find out where to watch the show, and learn more about Altar'd here.
The emotional moment where the couple sees each other again — aka, the ultimate first look — is extra special, largely because of the time the two have spent apart. And we're guessing that the same heightened sense of beauty and wonder likely translates to the bedroom. So we imagine that Kerr and Spiegel have a lot more to look forward to than just a larger family.
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To Wait... Or Not?
There's many a reason to save sex for marriage, from wanting to make the act special and exclusive, to religious beliefs, fear of the consequences, and more. Likewise, there's equally good reasons to go for it, from discovering your sexual identity, solving sexual issues, and figuring out that thing called "chemistry."
But consider: There is something special about waiting... for anything. If you take a few months off from eating your favorite food, that next bite is very likely going to taste unusually delicious. Saving your money for something big rather than blowing it little by little can make you happier in the long run. And being apart from a loved one, whether sexually or physically, can make you crave, treasure, and appreciate that person's company in a similar way. Which makes waiting for marriage a surprisingly enticing idea.
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