Of course sex is important, any expert or counselor will tell you so (provided you’re of age, that is!). But when the big O eludes you, don’t just blame your partner. There are ways in which you can help prime your own body better for sex.

1. Think more about it

According to a study that appeared in the journal Sexologies, women who have more erotic thoughts are found to orgasm regularly than those who do not. How you think throughout the act is what makes a big difference too. So get that naughtiness on, woman!

2. Put your hands to good use

Yes, you guessed it right. We’re talking about some self-love here. Agreed you want your partner to give you that O, but when it comes to your body, you know it best. You know where to touch, where to show love, where to be gentle and where to be rough, and the best part is, you know when to stop,  or when not to! Use your knowledge and your hands to the best advantage, and then save the last for your partner to help you with.

3. Try yoga

According to Ellen Barrett, author of Sexy Yoga, yoga is supposed to increase flexibility, which helps you be free and be more willing and able to try out new positions. Kundalini Yoga, known as the mother of all Yoga, awakens a powerful point that lies at the base of your spine. The region of the body that is referred to as the Kundalini region is the area between the vagina and clitoris in females and between the anus and testicles in males. 

4. Love what you see in the mirror 

When you want your partner to crave for your love, it’s essential you feel sexy too! Get your sexy lingerie out and don’t just wait for the right occasion. Try some naked time (even when you are alone!) and get comfortable with your body. It’s simple really – if you feel confident in your skin, it’s more likely you have an uninhibited romp with your partner.

5. Take your time

When you finally are with your partner, you need to understand the first step starts not down there, but up in the brain. You need to get yourself in the zone, and let your thoughts connect. Sex is in its basic form a spiritual connect – between the yin and the yang, Shiva and the Shakti. Treat it as a means of getting a deeper reference for your relationship. Look into your partner’s eyes, understand what he wants and let him know what you want. Cuddle, touch, fondle, and do all those things together that will build the anticipation.

Try these and let us know if they worked for you. And if you have any tried-and-tested tips, do care to share.