They say every individual has a unique set of traits and habits making up their personality. But what about your sex life? We decode the most common bedroom behaviors, identifying seven personality types. Read on to figure out your type and get handy tips for your sexual health:
If you’re the kind of person who is more focused on emotional intimacy during sex than the actual act, it’s likely you’re a sensualist. You enjoy sex, but only because it’s a great way to connect with someone in a deeper fashion. Sensualists tend to be kind and generous partners, who enjoy being showered with expressions of love and affection.
Quick Tip: Let your sensuality extend into other areas of your life too. Food can be a very sensory experience if you focus on the aromas, textures and colors of what you’re eating. Going outside in nature can be very healing, if you focus on the sensations of the wind, the colors of the trees or the sound of snow crunching underfoot
Do you feel emotionally close to someone only if they are sexually passionate? Do you crave fire and enjoy the process of lovemaking? If yes, you’re probably an erotic lover. You enjoy having your partner make you feel desired and attractive, and respond enthusiastically when they initiate sex.
Quick Tip: Try and associate romance with more than just sex. Please your partner outside the bedroom too, and get to know them better. Don’t obsess over the sexual act, and try and enjoy the little things in life with your partner.
You’ve had a bad day at work and are incredibly stressed out. You avoid going postal, only because you know you will unwind with some hot and heavy sex once you get home. Warning! You’re a dependent, when it comes to your sexuality. Using sex as a coping mechanism means you want it on demand, often with little concern for what your partner feels.
Quick Tip: Remember that it takes two to tango, and it’s not fair to use someone just for sex. If you’re stressed, try other stress-busting methods such as yoga, meditation, listening to music or playing sports. And the sex? Have it for fun, as it’s supposed to be.
Whether you’re in a friends-with-benefits situation, or in a committed relationship, do you tend to feel like your partner owes you sex? You’re the entitled type, who rarely understands the concept of compromise. You are often convinced your desires are more important than your partner’s, and can be pushy and demanding when you don’t get what you want.
Quick Tip: You need to treat your partner as an equal, and come to an agreement on the kind of sex life that fulfills both of your desires. Share your ideas about what you consider to be fair and what your expectations are, but be willing to meet them halfway.
You tend to have a roving eye—when you’re single, dating someone, or in a committed relationship. You cannot resist having sex with someone even if you know it’s not right. Your sexual personality is clearly addictive. While there is a clear distinction between people who are not cut out for monogamy and those who are just cheaters, being addictive means you’re always hiding your sexual behavior out of the fear of betraying someone.
Quick Tip: Be open and honest with your partner from the beginning. Inform them that things are definitely not going to be exclusive , and define exactly what you can and cannot be expected to do. Let them make an informed decision.
Pleasing your partner in bed gives you more happiness than anything else does. But you take it to another level and often even sacrifice your own needs to put theirs first. Your sexual personality is reactive. Being aroused when your partner is having a good time or is sexually satisfied is normal, but are you being too giving all the time?
Quick Tip: Your pleasure is important too, and your partner might derive a similar joy from arousing and satisfying you. Giving them that opportunity every now and then can be very liberating.
You have a healthy libido, but are always worried about sex. Instead of enjoying the process, you think too much over it. If this is how you feel, you are sexually stressed. Wracked with enormous amounts of performance pressure and anxiety, you tend to have trouble tuning in to your authentic needs and desires. You rarely ever relax enough to enjoy sex because you can’t shut off your thoughts.
Quick Tip: Stop considering sex as a race, and look at it more as a team effort where everybody wins. Don’t take it personally if your partner isn’t in the mood. Most importantly, be as emotionally present, as you physically are.
Sex can be so much more than just a release, or a challenge. Once you’ve figured out your sex personality, work towards enhancing your experience in keeping with that discovery.